life transitions, transition

Life Transitions – what the heck are they?

Life Transitions – planned and unplanned

What do job change, loss of a loved one, moving, losing valuables in a flood, retirement, pregnancy, and graduating high school all have in common? Drum roll please…they are all LIFE TRANSITIONS! Sounds like a fancy name given to something that is not actually fancy at all? You’re correct! “Life transitions” is a blanket term “we therapy people” give to the personal experience of coming to terms with any change throughout life that causes us to re-invent ourselves in some way. We go through change and transition all the time; some are easy and some are not. A life transition can be expected, like turning 30, or unexpected, like losing your home in a fire.

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controlling husband

Controlling Husband – five signs to look for

Five signs your might be married to a controlling husband

Are you concerned that your husband may be a controlling husband? Perhaps you’ve felt this way for a long time, but have found yourself creating excuses for such behavior. Maybe you feel that it’s your fault, or even tell yourself that it’s just the way he is. The first step towards finding hope for a better relationship or outcome is simply recognizing and becoming aware of some of the signs.

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Gottman Method

Couples Counseling using the Gottman Method

What is the Gottman Method?

Developed over the course of multiple decades, Dr. John Gottman and his wife Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman created Gottman Method Couples Therapy to help couples achieve a better sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships – ultimately assisting them in achieving heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. Through extensively studying empirical research using real, actual couples, along with years of expertise in clinical practice, this approach to couples counseling is considered both practical and scientific. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, the Gottman method assists couples in identifying and addressing their personal hindrances to effective communication and bonding.

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opiates in pregnancy

Opiates in pregnancy – what are the effects?

Opiates in pregnancy – with the current overprescribing of opiates in the Pittsburgh are and the us in general, it is becoming more of an issue for moms to be.  Clearly if you are using or addicted to opiates either in legally or illegally, you need to act to avoid hurting your baby.

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Chronic pain

Chronic pain – what can you do to lessen it’s impact on your life?

Chronic pain definition and symptons

Chronic pain is defined as any pain that lasts longer than six months that is the result from either a physical health condition/injury or mental health condition. Studies show that chronic pain can also be a sign of untreated depression, anxiety, grief, unexpressed anger or being emotionally overwhelmed.

According to the Betty Ford Center, a clinic that focuses on addiction treatment, the markers for identification of those suffering from chronic pain include: symptoms of depression, history of abuse (physical/emotional/sexual), high levels of current stress, anxiety and the tendency to catastrophize ones thoughts. Studies completed by this facility show that trauma that takes place early in life trains the brain to be more receptive to future chronic pain that is typically not treated easily.

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codependency

Codependency when soulmates become relationship addicts

Codependency or Relationship Addiction – “If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.” -Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome

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Falling out of love

Falling out of love – what do you do about it

Falling Out of Love

The realization that our feelings towards our partner have changed can be confusing. Is it for the best? Was it him or I that changed? Was I actually in love or was it all fantasy? This can be one of the most painful processes to undergo. In order to understand where the love went, self-reflection is necessary. The recognition of our own behaviors in relationships that result in distance between us and our partner can allow us to understand ourselves and our interpersonal patterns on a deeper level. Carolyn Joyce states that “we must know ourselves in order to truly fall in love with someone else.”

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single mothers

Single mothers – what can you do to get support for yourself?

Single mothers – “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress and twice the tears; but also twice the hugs, twice the love and twice the pride.” -Unknown

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May is Mental Health Month

I am  part of the Quartet community in Pittsburgh and for Mental Health Month, we’ve asked I shared my perspective on the challenges stemming from mental health and the need for a care team to support those who are suffering.

The mission of Quartet “is to enable every person in our society to thrive by building a collaborative behavioral and physical health ecosystem.”

To accomplish this mission – Quartet operates a cloud based platform that allows communication and collaboration between medical providers like doctors offices and primary care physicians with behavioral health providers like Cristina Panaccione and Associates, LLC for collaborative inter-disciplinary patient care. Our practice is please to be part of this community in the south Hills of Pittsburgh.

You can read the entire article on their site.

social media addiction

Social Media Addiction

Social Media Addiction. How can we possibly be addicted to social media – it wasn’t even invented until a few years ago.  We decided to look at the Pew Research paper on Social media use in the US to see just how much people use social media. Check it out, but if you are under 40 odds are over 80% of you are using social media daily. And 70% of those people are using Facebook every day.  The use stats on all of the major networks in the US are in the link.  And if you are thinking it is just Millennials with this issue – think again.  In January of this year the Ny Times reported that Gen X’ers spend more time on Social Media than Millennials.

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