controlling husband

Controlling Husband – five signs to look for

Five signs your might be married to a controlling husband

Are you concerned that your husband may be a controlling husband? Perhaps you’ve felt this way for a long time, but have found yourself creating excuses for such behavior. Maybe you feel that it’s your fault, or even tell yourself that it’s just the way he is. The first step towards finding hope for a better relationship or outcome is simply recognizing and becoming aware of some of the signs.

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Gottman Method

Couples Counseling using the Gottman Method

What is the Gottman Method?

Developed over the course of multiple decades, Dr. John Gottman and his wife Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman created Gottman Method Couples Therapy to help couples achieve a better sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships – ultimately assisting them in achieving heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. Through extensively studying empirical research using real, actual couples, along with years of expertise in clinical practice, this approach to couples counseling is considered both practical and scientific. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, the Gottman method assists couples in identifying and addressing their personal hindrances to effective communication and bonding.

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Chronic pain

Chronic pain – what can you do to lessen it’s impact on your life?

Chronic pain definition and symptons

Chronic pain is defined as any pain that lasts longer than six months that is the result from either a physical health condition/injury or mental health condition. Studies show that chronic pain can also be a sign of untreated depression, anxiety, grief, unexpressed anger or being emotionally overwhelmed.

According to the Betty Ford Center, a clinic that focuses on addiction treatment, the markers for identification of those suffering from chronic pain include: symptoms of depression, history of abuse (physical/emotional/sexual), high levels of current stress, anxiety and the tendency to catastrophize ones thoughts. Studies completed by this facility show that trauma that takes place early in life trains the brain to be more receptive to future chronic pain that is typically not treated easily.

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codependency

Codependency when soulmates become relationship addicts

Codependency or Relationship Addiction – “If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.” -Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome

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Falling out of love

Falling out of love – what do you do about it

Falling Out of Love

The realization that our feelings towards our partner have changed can be confusing. Is it for the best? Was it him or I that changed? Was I actually in love or was it all fantasy? This can be one of the most painful processes to undergo. In order to understand where the love went, self-reflection is necessary. The recognition of our own behaviors in relationships that result in distance between us and our partner can allow us to understand ourselves and our interpersonal patterns on a deeper level. Carolyn Joyce states that “we must know ourselves in order to truly fall in love with someone else.”

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single mothers

Single mothers – what can you do to get support for yourself?

Single mothers – “Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress and twice the tears; but also twice the hugs, twice the love and twice the pride.” -Unknown

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social media addiction

Social Media Addiction

Social Media Addiction. How can we possibly be addicted to social media – it wasn’t even invented until a few years ago.  We decided to look at the Pew Research paper on Social media use in the US to see just how much people use social media. Check it out, but if you are under 40 odds are over 80% of you are using social media daily. And 70% of those people are using Facebook every day.  The use stats on all of the major networks in the US are in the link.  And if you are thinking it is just Millennials with this issue – think again.  In January of this year the Ny Times reported that Gen X’ers spend more time on Social Media than Millennials.

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Good men

Where are all the good men?

A few good men. Where are they? Do you find yourself attracted to the same types of men? Do you find yourself looking back and seeing each relationship you’ve had repeating patterns? Do you feel like you are stuck in the Twilight Zone with no hope ever to find the man of your dreams? You are not alone and this is definitely something you can fix!

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