Relationship checklist – are you the type of person that likes to look at lists? Do you ever wish life came with a manual, a How-To-Tutorial on navigating through the obstacles of life? You aren’t the only one. While there isn’t a tried and true book on successful romantic relationships, there are behaviors that can cause concern. Read through the following list and make a note of things that resonate with you regarding your current relationship.
We said it earlier, cheating and infidelity, happen but we often wonder why we cheat. People and their relationships are complex, full of their own variations, experiences, and quirks. If you think about it, it’s amazing that most relationships work out at all. Monogamous relationships are comprised of two people with different heritage backgrounds, life experiences, upbringings, and sometimes even social classes coming together to live harmoniously together. Not the easiest of tasks – especially for a relationship lasting decades.
It’s becoming more common than ever to be found in a relationship with a partner who either has cheated in the past or is currently toying with the idea of straying. Most of the time, cheating can be rooted down to one of two issues: an issue with the actual relationship, or an issue with one of the individuals in the relationship. If you’ve found yourself in the middle of infidelity (whether done by you or done to you), you may be looking for answers on how to move forward. However, in order to move forward, sometimes it’s crucial to take a step back.
Postpartum Depression: The Baby Blues
The baby blues include mood swings and feelings of anxiety and sadness that typically emerge 3-5 days after giving birth and dissipate on their own within a few weeks. 70% of new moms experience this temporary change in mood. The baby blues differ from postpartum depression in the length of time in which the symptoms peak as well as the severity of the symptoms.
“There’s societal pressure to feel happy and blissful, so women don’t talk about [the baby blues]. There’s enormous guilt and shame.” – Dr. Samantha Meltzer-Brody
Temper Tantrums: What They Are, What They Mean and How to Manage Them
Temper Tantrums. You’ve been there. A toddler is lying on his back in the middle of the store. He’s screaming at the top of his little lungs and pounding his fists when he didn’t get the Snickers bar in the candy aisle. You’ve heard that child screeching and crying hysterically a few rows back on the plane. Which isn’t great, as you’re already struggling to mentally prepare yourself for Thanksgiving with the in-laws. You’ve seen it. You’ve heard it. And maybe even pitied the humiliated parent who was desperately trying to calm their child mid-meltdown. You might even have been that parent. How confident did you feel in your ability to handle that situation?
“The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.” ― Lundy Bancroft
Abuse in the dating world is defined as “a pattern of coercive behavior in which one person attempts to control another through threats or actual use of physical violence, sexual assault, and verbal or psychological abuse. These acts may include physical, sexual, verbal, mental or emotional abuse.” (Source: Safe Voices)
Five signs your might be married to a controlling husband
Are you concerned that your husband may be controlling? Perhaps you’ve felt this way for a long time, but have found yourself creating excuses for such behavior. Maybe you feel that it’s your fault, or that it’s just the way he is. In fact, you love him. The first step towards finding hope for a better relationship is simply recognizing and becoming aware of some of the signs. Listed below are 5 common indicators of an overbearing spouse who may be attempting to control you:
What is the Gottman Method?
Developed over the course of multiple decades, Dr. John Gottman and his wife Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman created Gottman Method Couples Therapy to help couples achieve a better sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships – ultimately assisting them in achieving heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. Through extensively studying empirical research using real, actual couples, along with years of expertise in clinical practice, this approach to couples counseling is considered both practical and scientific. By combining therapeutic interventions with couples exercises, the Gottman method assists couples in identifying and addressing their personal hindrances to effective communication and bonding.
Chronic pain definition and symptons
Chronic pain is defined as any pain that lasts longer than six months that is the result from either a physical health condition/injury or mental health condition. Studies show that chronic pain can also be a sign of untreated depression, anxiety, grief, unexpressed anger or being emotionally overwhelmed.
According to the Betty Ford Center, a clinic that focuses on addiction treatment, the markers for identification of those suffering from chronic pain include: symptoms of depression, history of abuse (physical/emotional/sexual), high levels of current stress, anxiety and the tendency to catastrophize ones thoughts. Studies completed by this facility show that trauma that takes place early in life trains the brain to be more receptive to future chronic pain that is typically not treated easily.
Codependency or Relationship Addiction
Falling Out of Love?
The realization that our feelings towards our partner have changed can be confusing. Is it for the best? Was it him or I that changed? Was I actually in love or was it all fantasy? This can be one of the most painful processes to undergo. In order to understand where the love went, self-reflection is necessary. The recognition of our own behaviors in relationships that result in distance between us and our partner can allow us to understand ourselves and our interpersonal patterns on a deeper level. Carolyn Joyce states that “we must know ourselves in order to truly fall in love with someone else.”