Relocating to a new city or town is stressful. Even if the move means you’re doing well in life. Change is scary. Uprooting yourself from the familiar is never comfortable. And there can be a number of challenges when trying to adjust to this new chapter. You may ask yourself questions such as “How will I ever learn my way around or meet new people?”. Or even, “Did I make the right choice? Will I be miserable here?”. The good news is you aren’t alone in these emotions and feelings. And there are a number of ways you can begin coping with a move.
Tips for Coping with a Move: Research the New Area
Before you say your “See you later’s” learn all you can about your new home. Use all your resources like books, maps, online sites, and those who know the area. Remember, people are always the most comfortable when they feel prepared. Make sure to research nearby schools, malls, and restaurants. Check out your new town’s event calendar to see regular and special events.
And remember, if you don’t have time to do research before you move, do it as soon as you get there. Pretend you’re a tourist or planning a “stay-cation”. Don’t miss anything!
Plan, Ask and Hire
First things first, you have to plan. Doing things at the last minute is stressful no matter who you are. Especially when that “thing” is packing up your entire house and get your family prepared. Start planning as far ahead as you can.
For the move itself, you need to either ask or hire. It’s always difficult to try moving on your own. If you’re single or the only adult, ask a relative or friend to help you with your necessary tasks. That could include dealing with moving trucks, connecting new utilities, or even just helping to get you fed throughout the day. If you don’t feel comfortable asking friends or family, then hire professional movers.
Use Your Support System
Your friends and family want to help you. And they don’t see you as a burden. I promise. Don’t hesitate to call upon your support system when needed. And don’t think they’ve forgotten about you once the move occurs. You can call them and go back to visit when you need a little extra love.
Introduce Yourself to Your New Neighbors…And Learn from Them
We know this may be way out of your comfort zone. But it is always helpful to know your neighbors. Whether you need to borrow the proverbial cup of sugar or just need someone to get your mail while you’re traveling, it’s definitely worth it to go out of your way to get to know the people who live near you.
Once you get to know them, you can learn from them. Remember, you kind of have to start from scratch. You need a new doctor. A new dentist. And a new hair stylist. These resources can take a lot of time to find. But getting referrals from the people you know are a good place to start!
Seek Out New Experiences and Become a Joiner
It’s going to be easy to wonder about the “what if’s” of your old life. Search for new opportunities and experiences to create your new future. Is your company starting an intramural league or hosting a charity volunteer event? Join them! Does the PTO need someone to organize a school dance? Volunteer!
Find the things that bring you joy, and you’ll be introduced to people with the same passions. This is a great place to potentially make friends and connect with new people!
Need Help Coping with a Move?
If you are moving against your own wishes, you’re going to be sad. You may even be angry. Don’t hold onto those emotions and thoughts alone. We want to help you take care of your emotional needs.
The only thing constant in life is change. And try as you may you can’t resist forever. Reversing the flow of negative thoughts is a difficult task, but it isn’t impossible. And it’s definitely easier when you have someone walking the path with you. If you feel you are struggling, know you aren’t alone, and we want to join you on your journey! Cristina Panaccione and Associates Counseling has two locations in the South Hills of Pittsburgh. We are currently accepting a limited number of new patients, so check out our videos to learn more about how we can help you navigate your personal roadblocks. Remember, health is a cycle — but you get to determine the direction it goes!
Crystal Norcott received her Master’s Degree in Professional Counseling from Carlow University. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a National Certified Counselor. She has been in the counseling profession for 10 years and has had a variety of clinical experiences. Her experiences include working with children and adolescents in a variety of settings including residential, school, community, and in the home. She has also worked with adults who may be experiencing a life event that they are struggling with, including but not limited to – addiction, depression, and anxiety.
Her counseling technique varies depending on the need and personality of the person, as there is no one technique that works for everyone. Don’t ever feel like you have to deal with life’s difficulties on your own.